We say yes to a lot of people around us as most of us are
conditioned in this manner. We hesitate to say ‘no’ because we have to make
someone happy, we don't want to cause the person inconvenience and more often
than not, we don’t want to come off as a rude person.
If anything, the more you say ‘yes’ and begin to accommodate
others, the more people start to expect from you. One must remember that saying
‘no’ doesn't make you a bad person.
It is quite simple that you can never be productive if you
take on too many commitments. To stay productive, minimize stress and avoid
wasting time. You have to learn the gentle art of saying ‘no’.
You should say no when your plate is full of tasks and
overloaded. Most importantly you aren't obligated to explain or justify your ‘no’.
It is not an offence to say ‘no’. Your family and friends
will understand even when you cannot make certain social engagements. And if
your friends do not get it, then it is probably time to make new friends.
As someone who always fills the silence, I find it difficult
but with practice I am letting go of people- pleasing and embracing ‘no’ as an
essential self-care tool.
To sum it up, my point of view is saying ‘no’ respectfully
and declining warmly is a skill, to master it we must keep practicing.
@Swati M
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